Hiya everyone! It's been a while since I posted an Advice article, so I'm super-duper happy someone actually asked me a question! Anonymous, whoever you are, thank you!
Okay, let's get started...
Dear Kitty,
Lately, I have been growing new interests and now my BFF and I have less and less in common. What should I do to stay in touch?
-Backstab
Dear Backstab,
This situation is similar to the one in my first Advice article, yet there are more ways to handle this. First, observe how your friend is acting. If her/his "new interests" seem to be making her/him less of a good person, than attempt to talk to her/him about what is happening and how you might be able to save your relationship. Believe me, I have had situations like this, it is not that hard to talk to your BFF even if s/he is changing quite a bit. Also keep track of how s/he is changing, like if it as deep as personality-wise or can be fixed, like a small habit. Finally, if all else fails and you and your BFF seen to be as distant as America and England, maybe the best choice is to just let go. It's not worth it to hang on to a bad person even though they might have been an amazing friend in the past. After all, if you break up, there are still other friends to me made. Life is made for mistakes and choices, not regrets.
-Kitty
Dear Kitty,
ReplyDeleteMy friend has been really mean to me. I have one friend (lets say her name is Sasha and the other one is Minerva) Sasha is my best friend and Minerva just wiggled in and became our friend. Suddenly, Sasha and I were talking about something and Minerva just pushed me aside and started talking to Sasha. I try to be nice and I joke about Minerva and then she starts insulting me like nobody's business. She always makes me sad, but I don't want to tell Sasha, but it's like Minerva is bullying me: What do I do? (Sorry of this is too long... :P)
Sincerely,
Unsure Otaku